Wednesday, October 25

Two years worth of advice...

In the movie The Lake House, architect Alex Wyland (Keanu Reeves) from 2004 asks Dr. Kate Feldman (Sandra Bullock) from 2006 what the world is like in the future. She jokes that not much has changed aside from the shiny silver unisuit and flying cars, etc. Eventually she replies, "not much."

While trying to carry a pretty ridiculous premise over some appalling disregard for the grandfather complex in time travel, with a romance that lacks any chemistry between its main stars (when they finally do kiss it looks like he's about to eat her face and she wants to run like hell), the movie did leave me with a question.

I often see the question about giving yourself advice as a younger person -- say 5 to 10 years -- but rarely as short a duration as two. Is it that we don't think we have enough distance from our two years ago self to give advice? Or that we're still undergoing the same challenges and still haven't quite got them figured out? Something else.

I put the challenge to myself. What would I tell Eddie of two years ago. Twenty five years old, not yet having attended CW and only a year into her first "real" job. A lot has changed for me in two years. I think I would have a lot to say.
  • Don't be so afraid of change, of not knowing what comes next. In the end, it always comes out alright.
  • Being alone is good sometimes, it teaches you things about yourself you can't learn when someone is standing right beside you.
  • Just because you're friends with someone doesn't mean things can't change and you "grow away" from each other. Have the grace to let go when the time comes.
  • Keep up your yoga practice, no matter how hard it gets to integrate into your daily life, it will keep you sane when the world feels like it's falling apart.
  • Don't date Jesse. Sometimes friends should just stay friends.
  • Call your parents more often, tell them how great they are and that you love them, even when they drive you crazy.
  • You will live without the Mustang. You will love your next vehicle so much more. Let go.
  • Don't give up on the E-Bass. We really should know how to play an instrument well by now.
  • Eat more oatmeal. And floss EVERY DAY.
  • Get Echo into that agility class you were always meaning to sign up for. He won't be young forever.
  • Write more. You've got talent, now work on the skill.
  • Most of all, be good to yourself. Let go of the need to judge. Hug yourself when things get hard. And love yourself, a lot. Be gentle with us. We've come a long way and still have miles to go, Spirit willing.
That's my list. What would you say to your two years ago self?



Blogger Eugene said...

Hmmm... interesting question. Here are a few things I came up with:

- Keep writing. It may not feel like you're getting anywhere at the moment, but the hard work will pay off.
- Stop watching TV. No, really.
- Save some money, would you?
- I know you miss your ex, but that cute girl you've been talking to is going to be the best thing that ever happened to you.
- Don't let life get you down. As bad as things get, you will have many happy moments. Appreciate them, and try to share them with others.
- Spend less time online.
- Start cleaning out your apartment; you're moving soon.
- Hang in there. You're smart, you have good instincts, and most of all you're pretty lucky. Your entire life is going to change soon, but don't be afraid because it's all a part of life. Keep learning and growing.

Then there are all the things I would tell myself to warn other people, to prevent some sadness along the way. But that too is part of life...

Then again, maybe I'd be content to let myself discover all these things on my own, because that process is valuable and things didn't turn out too badly. I'd hate to screw things up. In fact, I wrote a story about this very thing, if you recall :)

11/02/2006 7:48 PM  

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